What a Saturday my wife and I had! We were interviewed for a documentary on Love Stories. With a little luck, it looks like it will be on Netflix!
One thing that came out during our interview, and afterwords talking about it, was that one of the primary mechanisms of long-lasting love is communication. It is the thing that allows the lustful love of youth to mature into a love where separate identities are intertwined and improved. A great relationship is truly jet fuel for life.
Communication is work. To call love a "journey of communication" is no cliché. It is easy to get completely overwhelmed by the day-to-day struggles and responsibilities of life that real deep conversation gets lost. And once it is lost, it is hard to get back.
But, to be married over 22 years and get lost in a conversation lying in bed is true bliss. You close your eyes and you and your love are ageless. Dreams can’t be imagined without the other. How precious are these moments. They happen because you battle through the dark moments, the tough times. As my wife says, “there is only way out of a tough child birth, birthing that baby. And there is only way out of a marriage, together. That has to be your level of commitment.”
If you are committed to your love, make conversation and time for each other a priority. Don’t be afraid to argue, be quick to forgive, and even quicker to listen.